Thoughts on Motivation

Labor Day marks the change from summer to fall, from vacation to school. It also marks the start of the final lap — the homestretch — in your quest to complete a great year before hitting 2008.
It’s like New Year’s — a new page and another (yes, another) chance to make a change and do all the things we said we were going to do, but never did.
Labor Day gives you a last chance opportunity to make a dash — a sprint to December 31st, so you can make up for all the things you said you would accomplish last January 1st … but just never got around to doing.
As we enter fall, and it is time to get back on track, both in fitness, business, and personally, I am reminded of a favorite quote from Paul Williams in his book, Das Energi:
“At the depths of despair, nothing matters. I can’t do anything, got to get out of here, walls falling in, throw me a rope. I can’t move, can’t stand it, nothing, throw me a rope …
“Then one day, like any other day, finally tired of waiting for help that never comes, make a rope, tie it to a rock, throw it up, pull yourself out and walk away …”
The message here is simple:
• It’s your body — take charge of it.
• It’s your business — take charge of it.
• It’s your life — take charge of it.
Do you think that doing the things you know need to be done is scary?  That’s nothing. Adrenaline is just adrenaline. Whether that looks like “Oh Boy” or “Oh @&*!” is just a matter of attitude. If you really want to be scared, think about what is sure to happen if you don’t take action!
As Paul Williams put it, “Stamp out hesitation before it turns into fear!”
It’s your life, live it!

Sunday Outing: Oakland Zoo

We were lucky recently to receive free passes to the Oakland Zoo, which gave us the motivation to check it out.  They have recently re-opened their children’s zoo, and it was great!
James and I were remembering when we were kids, and they had the giant tortoises in the childrens zoo. In those days it was not at all humane, we used to climb all over those prehistoric creatures!  More recently, in the last couple of years, the zoo had seemed really run down.
Needless to say, we were pleasantly surprised by the new lower entrance that was added, as well as with the children’s area.  The most interesting thing for me was the fruit bat display.  I have never seen these creatures up close, and they were so strange and creepy.  Their wings looked like umbrellas, and their little faces looked like foxes.  Our youngest son Jimmy thought they were really cool, along with the ring-tailed lemurs that reminded him of one of his favorite shows, Zoboomafoo.
We happened upon feeding time for the giant Komodo Dragon.  His keepers were luring him down from the rocks with snails and giant cockroaches.  I am so glad I am not in the zoo business!  It was disgusting!
There is and indoor reptile and amphibian exhibit that showcases frogs in a dozen different colors, from bright yellow, to red, to spotted green.  We arrived late in the day, and only spent 90 minutes there, but will go back for sure!  Check it out with your family, you will enjoy it.

Tom Sawyer

This summer at the cabin I began reading Tom Sawyer to the boys.  The jargon is a little hard to understand, so I translate to modern English as I go, but the message and adventures are timeless.  From the 5 year old up to the 12 year old, they love the story!   James broke out the bb guns for the first time and Jimmy decided to go native after he had his first experience shooting a soda can.  Lots of fun for the boys!

 

Recently I overheard an older man instructing a younger man in the three stages of dealing with people. He described them as

Telling, Yelling and Asking.

He suggested that we tend to start out telling people what to do. Then, when they don’t respond favorably, we yell. When we find that doesn’t work, we begin asking. People tend to respond better to asking than telling or yelling. The advice given was to move to the asking stage quickly to save everybody a lot of frustration and grief.

This works with your kids too, believe it or not.

Recipe of the Month: Brie-and-Caramelized Onion-Stuffed Chicken Breasts

Although this elegant dish is low on calories, the melted Brie-and-onion combination creates a rich-tasting, buttery consistency.
1 teaspoon olive oil, divided
1-1/2 cups sliced onion
4 garlic cloves, thinly sliced
2/3 cup dry white wine, divided
2 ounces Brie, rind removed and cut into small pieces (about 2 T)
1/8 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon pepper
4 (4-oz) skinned, boned chicken breast halves
2 tablespoons minced onion
1 tablespoon chopped fresh or 3/4 teaspoon dried rubbed sage
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 (10-1/2-oz) can low-salt chicken broth
Sage sprigs (optional)
1. Heat 1/2 teaspoon oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Add sliced onion; sauté 30 minutes or until golden brown. Add sliced garlic; sauté 5 minutes. Stir in 1/3 cup wine; cook 5 minutes or until liquid almost evaporates. Spoon onion mixture into a bowl; let cool. Stir in Brie, salt, and pepper.
2. Cut a horizontal slit through the thickest portion of each chicken breast half to form a pocket. Stuff about 1-1/2 tablespoons of the onion mixture into each pocket.
3. Heat 1/2 teaspoon oil in skillet over medium-high heat. Add chicken; sauté 6 minutes on each side or until chicken is done. Remove chicken from skillet. Set aside; keep warm.
4. Add 1/3 cup wine, minced onion, sage, and minced garlic to skillet. Cook over medium-high heat for 2 minutes. Stir in broth. Bring to a boil, and cook 7 minutes or until reduced to 3/4 cup. Return chicken to skillet; cover and simmer 2 minutes or until thoroughly heated. Serve sauce with chicken. Garnish with fresh sage, if desired.

It’s all about the Dads!

You can’t honor Mom without honoring Dad, so this month is dedicated to that special man, Dad.  My Dad, David, is the son of first generation immigrants from Spain, and is the hardest worker I have ever known.  He has a good heart, and would do anything for you.  His parents were entrepreneurs, making a life in this new land. He grew up working in their poultry business in San Leandro, as well as in the motel they would later own in Modesto.  He went into business for himself, following his passion for electronics into the field of two-way radios (pre-cellular phone era!)  He heard about a beautiful young lady that was visiting from Barcelona, and sought out to win her heart.

He told her on their first date that he was going to marry her.  True to his word, in less than a year they wed.  That Spanish girl is my Mom, and they have been married for 41 years this last May.  My Dad has always been there for me and for my brother and sister.  He has helped us without being asked whenever we need it, even if we didn’t let on that we needed help!

When I met my husband, James, what drew me to him was the same idealism that I love in my Dad.  They are both optimists with dreams, visionaries with purpose.   James has proven to be a wonderful Dad to our clan, just the right balance of strict and pushover, with a heaping dose of affection and laughter.  Happy Fathers Day to all the Dads out there!  It can be a tough job to be a good parent, and I want you to know, you are appreciated!

On that note, it was a chore to figure out what to get James for Fathers Day.  We came up with a list, based on the items that our dog, Buddy Boy, has chewed, eaten, buried or destroyed:

  • 4 aloha shirts
  • 2 pairs of flip flops
  • 1 pool gate
  • 6 pairs of swim trunks
  • 6 patio chairs
  • 8 flats of begonias
  • 5 beach towels
  • 23 sprinkler heads
  • 1 swinging bench
  • 1 rose bush
  • 4-10? Garden shovels
  • 2 sets of barbecue tools
  • 3 ½ pairs of flippers
  • 3 pairs of Gramicci shorts
  • undetermined number of goggles
  • 500 square feet of sod
  • 4 extension cords (one side only)
  • ½ dozen screwdrivers
  • pull cord to the lawn mower

I think James will be quite surprised to get all of these for Father’s Day.  I just need a box that will hold it all, and please don’t let him know what he’s getting, he might realize we forgot something!

It’s I love Moms month

April showers bring May flowers and all that, along with allergies!  Anyway, May has always been a busy month for our family, with Mothers Day (May 13th), Denica’s birthday (May 12th), James’ Birthday (May 22nd), and now we also added Cinco de Mayo (May 5th) to our list of celebrations!  Last year we had a big party, and it was so much fun!
This year we expect a great turnout as well, so we are staffing up.  James and I are planning a little escape later in May in honor of our birthdays–mine is a big one ((don’t you dare ask!))  Anyway, even if we don’t get away, we did take a couple of days off during spring break.  We rented an RV (great deals off season) and took the kids to Lake Del Valle.  I had only been to Del Valle once before, and I have to say, it was really fun!  I especially liked that it was so close to home- it only took us 40 minutes to get there, and at the end of 2 days, those 40 minutes to a hot shower are priceless!
We are up and running on the web, so check us out!  (DenicasCafe.com) The site looks really nice, and we have our menus online which will help with your phone orders.  You may have noticed our comment cards, we are taking your suggestions seriously, and have already implemented some changes thanks to your input!  Overall your most favorite thing seems to be our cookies and the samples!  Thanks for all the positive feedback!
We love our new décor on the taco side, so have updated the Pastry Café as well.  And at your request…we are replacing the wicker, cut off your circulation, uncomfortable chairs!  We plan on being here for many years, so we are re-investing in the décor.  We appreciate you, you are what makes it possible!