Best Buddies: Giving Back

Thank you to all of you who sponsored our Best Buddies team.  We made it a family event, and took our 3 sons and my parents with us.  My sister, her boyfriend and her son also signed up.

We had originally signed up to ride the 100K bike ride again this year, but with the boys coming along, it was a better family decision to change to the 3K walk that our oldest son Noah (who it was all about) could participate in.

Nick, our 14 year old, rode the 15 mile bike ride, with no training, and came in before anyone else in our group, smiling and pumped from riding hard and fast.  Our youngest, Jimmy, walked the 3K with Noah, James and I.

One of the highlights for Noah and Jimmy was being able to hand out the finisher’s medals to the cyclists as they crossed the finish line, and I was so blessed to get a video of Noah giving his brother Nick a medal, both of them beaming.

It was the first time we, as a family, had done something for a cause, and it was a great feeling.  The boys convinced us to sign up again for next year, so we’ll be there again, this time with more planning and fundraising!

James’ Secret Spot: Las Trampas Regional Wilderness

…is the tough guy of the East Bay Regional Park District. There are no steam trains or petting zoos. Just steep, rugged trails, interesting geology, and fantastic views.

The primary destination at Las Trampas is Rocky Ridge and its 2,024-foot summit. Though the surrounding landscape consists of rolling hills edged by canyons with small creeks, Rocky Ridge is a spectacular sandstone wall with diagonal striations on its west face.

On top, you get spectacular views to the east of Mount Diablo and the Livermore Valley, and to the west of Crow Canyon plunging at your feet and beyond to the South Bay. The cliffs here provide nesting areas for many raptors, including red-tailed hawks, prairie falcons and the fastest creature on earth, the peregrine falcon. Another option is the side trip to what is called the “WindCaves.” These are actually more like sandstone hollows. To get there from the Upper Trail (with map in hand), turn right on the Sycamore Trail and tromp a little more than a quarter-mile down to the caves. This is a fairly steep descent, though short.

The service roads are excellent for mountain biking, especially once the climb has been negotiated and you reach the Upper Trail. The land also can be trekked on game trails on foot, exploring the edge of canyons and watersheds, and free climbing and scrambling atop the ridge itself.

Perched atop the ridge, you might be lucky enough to watch the hawks and falcons at eye level, floating on the thermals, gliding with scarcely a wingbeat.

The malls will feel a million miles away.

Recipe of the Month: Emergency Chocolate Cake

Life in our family is defined by a never ending series of surprises. This, of course, is what makes it so interesting. Ever hopeful, I still write out an ambitious To Do List each morning–though most of the time it simply involves re-copying the previous day’s list.

All of these unforeseen events are not true emergencies, but many of them do require prompt attention. When several occur at once, we fall into a sort of triage mode and prioritize our actions accordingly:
1. Children
2. Business
3. Vehicles, Equipment & Everything Else that  breaks down.
Sometimes the definition of what constitutes an actual emergency can be rather subjective.  I’m sure there are those who would not consider a desperate need for chocolate cake to be a dire situation. I disagree. Sometimes–especially if you have just dealt with skinned knees, forgotten homework, temper tantrums and hunger strikes–what you really, really need is a piece of chocolate cake. And absolutely nothing else will do.
Producing a seven-layer, museum quality extravaganza complete with three types of filling and dusted with real gold is clearly not an option at this point. That would be the State-Of-The-Art Robotic Surgery Wing At The Hospital Cake. No, what you require is the First-Aid Kit Chocolate Cake: fast, easy, and immediately stops the cravings. Here is that cake.
This cake is not glamorous. It does not aspire to be a Gourmet magazine covercake. Of course you could dress it up in an endless number of ways, all to delightful effect. You could serve it with fresh raspberries and a dollop of vanilla whipped cream. Or with tiny scoops of cappuccino gelato sprinkled with crushed, chocolate-covered espresso beans. Or you could add things to the batter, such as mini chocolate chips, toasted nuts, instant espresso powder, finely grated orange peel, or a splash of good dark rum.
All of these would be very nice. The point is, though, that you don’t need to do any of them. The beauty of this cake is that it is absolutely delicious all by itself. It doesn’t even need frosting. You bake it in a loaf pan and simply slice it into about eight thick pieces. It is soft and light and moist and offers just the right amount of sweetness and chocolate. Yesterday it took me less than 20 minutes to go from empty kitchen counter to cake in the oven–and that included licking the beaters. You can even eat it warm.
Since I am the only person in our household who suffers from Chocolate Cake Emergencies, I have never felt the need to double the recipe and make two loaves at once, but it would probably work just fine.
Emergency Chocolate Cake
1/2 cup (1 stick/4 ounces) butter, softened
1 cup granulated sugar
2 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup yogurt or sour cream (or a combination)
Heat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour a 9″x5″ loaf pan. Cream butter and sugar until smooth, 1-2 minutes. Beat in eggs one at a time. Beat in vanilla. Add dry ingredients to creamed mixture, alternating with yogurt. Beat just until smooth. Turn batter into prepared pan and bake 35-40 minutes, or until a toothpick stuck in the center comes out clean. Do not overbake. Cool in pan. Cake may settle in the middle as it cools–this is normal.  Enjoy!

A positive thinker does not refuse to recognize the negative, he refuses to dwell on it.
Positive thinking is a form of thought which habitually looks for the best results from the worst conditions.-Norman Vincent Peale, 1898-1993 Writer and minister

Go ahead—Take a Nap

It’s unhealthy and exhausting to be connected to the world 24 hours a day.  These days, with e-mail, instant messaging, cell phones and PDAs, the idea of never being away from work can be exhausting and demoralizing, not to mention inefficient.Some stress management experts say a nap can refresh the mind and body so we can get going again. Naps can also prevent that after-lunch sluggishness that can sap the rest of the day’s energy if not attended to. So if you feel the need for renewal it might be time for a good old-fashioned nap.

Twenty minutes is all it takes for me to get into the deep sleep that I usually wake up from with a start, and feel 100 times better.

Valuable Denica’s lessons learned

When we opened Denica’s Pastry Café 12 years ago, we thought we had an idea of what we were getting into.  I spent hours on our business plan, making up numbers and projections, maxing out every line of credit we could get our hands on.

Definitely put all of our eggs into one basket.  We just were full of confidence and ideas– everything after that was sort of vague.
As the years progressed, however, we’ve learned a lot about running our own business and we’d like to share some of these valuable insights with you. So with that said, here are our:
Valuable Denica’s Lessons Learned
• Ouch! That grill is hot!
• No matter how many mascots you buy, they will all be too hot for any human to wear and they will all get dirty just by looking at them.
• Never buy 50,000 of anything, no matter how cheap they are. (Stickers lose their stickiness after about 3 years)
• If you decide to plan a vacation or three consecutive days off, your key staff will coincidentally need the same days off.
• Just when you thought you had it down, something changes.
• If you give your relatives free food, they’ll all order steak – even the vegetarians.
• The one day that you are short staffed and low on product is the one record day of the month.
• Stay fluid, roll with it!

So there you have it folks, business secrets that can be applied to situations in all walks of life.

Bad Moods

Most people spend three out of 10 days battling a foul mood. The causes of crabbiness are many, including lack of sleep and changes in hormone levels. Research has even linked chronic peevishness to too much activity in the frontal lobe of the brain. But whatever the cause, you can take steps to mitigate a bad mood:

1. If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, chances are you’ll start spilling the milk or staining your suit with jelly. Don’t let this domino effect ruin your whole day. Take charge by starting over. Sit with your eyes closed for a few minutes, breathing slowly to lower your heart rate and calm your mind.
2. If you’re chronically crabby in the morning, skip the coffee; instead try sipping some apple cider or herbal tea. Both apple and herbal scents increase the brain’s alpha waves, providing a calming effect.
3. Get organized. Messiness on a desk or in a closet can make you even crabbier because disorganization leaves you feeling out of control. Regain your sense of control by finding something to organize.
4. Write a letter. If your boss is putting you in a bad mood, put it down on paper. Writing can slow down your thinking, help you sift through the mental chaos and sometimes helps you see the bigger picture.

5. Flex those mental muscles by picturing yourself in a better place or distracting yourself with a line from a favorite song or poem. If you can visualize something that makes you happier, chances are your mood will lift.